My Top 50 At 50
I was never much of a birthday person, even as a kid. I’m notoriously terrible at remembering peoples’ birthdays (just ask my husband, sorry honey!) And I’m pretty low-key when mine rolls around.
But this one has stuck in my gut for months. Maybe it’s because 50 sounds like such a big freakin’ number and today, my moment of truth has finally arrived. Maybe it’s because this same year my two sons are 21 and 18…what???
Or maybe it’s because I’ve reached a point in my life where I’m so incredibly grateful for so many things – and I want to celebrate!
There have been a lot of thoughts swirling around in my head – realizations, beliefs, memories, opinions – that I have formed into the following list.
But first, I respectfully offer one qualifier. These thoughts are my own and not meant to impose upon your own beliefs. Please know the sentiments I share come from my heart and life experiences. Hopefully some will make you nod, chuckle and maybe give you a boost of self-awareness to live today with even greater meaning.
So, drum roll please…”My Top 50 at 50″:
- We are each born with a purpose. It’s our job to figure out what it is and live it.
- I am alive by the grace of God.
- My Mom was the most influential person in my life. I stand in her shadow and am grateful for the shade.
- Prayer works because it puts you in touch with your inner spirit and keeps you balanced so you can live your best through life’s ups and downs.
- Losing people I love dearly changed me forever, deepening my faith and appreciation for every day.
- Stop for a moment and consider the many blessings in your life. You have more than you may realize.
- Because we all get hurt along the way, emotionally and physically, healing serves an important purpose. Be brave and face the pain. Time and an open heart will heal your wounds.
- My life’s greatest accomplishment is being Mom to two sons who are beautiful inside and out.
- My life’s hardest and most important job remains striving to be the best Mom I can be.
- My life’s greatest privilege was being there for my Mom in her time of greatest need until her final breath.
- My Mom’s best advice – Take a day at a time. I hear her say it in my head often. It’s as if she’s speaking the words right out of my mouth when I say it to my kids.
- My best advice to anyone who cares to hear it – Be true to yourself.
- Be creative when giving your children advice – teach them how to make meatballs.
- Teenagers are a parenting right of passage – send them outside to weed the garden on a hot summer day.
- Everyone should be so lucky to have an Aunt Betty. (Mine turned 91 this year.)
- Be still in the quiet of your moments. The seemingly simple things can mean the most.
- I love sitting in a beach chair, watching and listening to the waves crash on to the shoreline and feeling the warm, salty, misty, sunny breeze on my skin.
- I love taking walks in the fall and inhaling the fresh air laden with the scent of fallen leaves that rustle across my feet.
- I love sitting on my front porch with a glass of wine at dusk and watching the sky turn from light to dark.
- Quiet walks with my dogs open my mind to the possibilities.
- I believe we all have souls, including my doggies.
- The Untethered Soul is the best book I’ve ever read. I highly recommend it.
- I’m still married because we never let go at the same time.
- Marriage is really hard.
- Sex keeps getting better with age (at least so far!)
- I love my husband.
- Wine is yummy.
- Fresh juicy garden tomatoes on a BLT sandwich slathered with mayonnaise that drips down my chin when I take a bite makes me happy.
- They call the Golden Rule “golden” for a reason.
- I believe in working hard, being humble and not complaining.
- Say thank-you and please. Good manners go a long way.
- Be giving with your gifts and talents.
- Smile and laugh easy and often.
- Cry when you need to.
- Keep your heart tender and you’ll always know love.
- Some of my closest friends were first my bosses or co-workers. Developing mutual respect for each other at work can result in amazing relationships for a lifetime.
- Your next forever friend may be right around the corner. Pay attention and keep your heart and mind open, even if first impressions are “negative.”
- Bohemian Rhapsody is the perfect song to sing with the best of friends when everyone is tipsy and packed like sandy sardines into a F150 after an awesomely fun, hot, sunny summer day at the beach. (You know who you are!)
- Jameson shots at the local Irish pub with friends before Noon is liberating after being told your position has been “eliminated” that same morning. (You know who you are too!)
- Hug and say I love you to the people you care about. You might not get another chance.
- People who struggle with addiction are lost sheep. Don’t leave them behind.
- We’re all in this together!
- I am not happy every day, but I am joyful.
- As long as we have breath in the present moment, we have the opportunity to try, fail, learn and improve.
- The first and last breaths we take are the bookends of our lives.
- Ava Maria is my favorite song.
- My faith is my foundation.
- Live your purpose in the present moment.
That’s my list, as of today. It would probably look similar but different if I had the opportunity to write it tomorrow.
And that’s how life goes. Now, off to the beach. There’s a beach chair with my name on it waiting for me…